What we intend to make this event based on:

OUR VALUES

BODY POSITIVITY

We love bodies & appreciate body variety, nakedness and the courage to broaden our socially programmed beauty standards. Bring all your fat, hair, non-hair, skin, bones, shapes, let’s have a celebration and un-shame it all!

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Imagine animals being ashamed of their bodies, like a monkey trying to hide its belly when jumping to another tree - isn’t it absurd?!

INCLUSION

We focus on building a good container to hopefully feel comfortable, supported and part of the group. Feeling excluded in a group is something most people know and can be quite unpleasant. On the other hand, most people contribute in one way or another to excluding people, mostly unintentionally. We would love for everyone to try to be as inclusive as we can, while remembering that we don’t have to do anything with anyone that we don’t want. ;)
At the event you will be in BUDDY GROUPS of 3-4 people. The buddy groups meet daily for sharings, mutual support, questions, and possibly requests.
In our DAILY GATHERINGS we facilitate some elements for group connection & communication, which help us create a good base with everyone - relaxation exercises, small games, sharings, encouraging clearings & sharing appreciations with specific people, and also singing & dancing together.
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THE 3 PROMISES

A little tradition of ours: In our event opening gathering everyone can make the following promises to themselves, to encourage selfcare, gentleness and raise inner consent skills:

SEX POSITIVITY

We welcome a great spectrum of (non-)sexual feelings, tendencies and consensual actions as well as nudity. Among other things, we offer sexual content & spaces.

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It's always possible to opt out and it's neither necessary nor guaranteed for participants to be involved sexually.

Sexuality is welcome, but it's not our main focus.

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We explicitly welcome queer sexualities and identities, and we generally invite questioning gender stereotypes, socially programmed patterns and beliefs that we carry about "who should or should not feel and do what".

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RESPECT

Respect can mean letting someone be, even though we dislike something about them.

It can also mean HYGIENE - showering, changing smelly clothes, brushing our teeth.

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We love people to practice respect in terms of language around gender identities, which means: try to not assume people’s genders from their looks, or guess their pronouns, instead ASK PEOPLE FOR THEIR PRONOUNS and use their preferred pronouns for them.

For us as a team, respect also means that we try to consider all sides in case of a conflict, and try to get in touch first before judging someone and bringing in consequences.

RESPECT IN CONNECTIONS

We 're in for beautiful, fair sexuality and would love to have everyone who might possibly be in sexual interactions at this event to:
a) inform yourself beforehand about SEXUALLY TRANSMITTABLE INFECTIONS and ideally get tested (can take a few weeks!)
(examples for learning more:
sex-aware.org or check out some videos on youtube - educate yourself!)
and practice safer sex, use protection, communicate about it…

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b) get clarity about our RELATIONSHIP AGREEMENTS (if you have any partners). We recommend to be rather detailed about physical and emotional boundaries/actions - in our spaces we don't want people to break their partnership agreements or hurt each other out of unclarity.

Respect can also be AFTERCARE: checking in with someone after we shared an intense experience - how are you? How was it for you?

CONSENT & SAFETY

We want to make truly consent-based decisions easier and therefore don’t allow alcohol or other drugs during the event.
We also find that events like ours can create a somewhat drug-like experience, therefore we don’t consider it completely sober. Which is welcome! Natural highness! 🫠
But: highness makes consent & self-care more difficult!
So we invite you to TAKE IT SLOW, don't rush into situations, take breaks to feel what you really want or need in that moment (which could be two different things). 🌝

We ask you to keep CONFIDENTIALITY - tell stories without describing specific people, or stick to speaking about yourself.
If you’re wondering whether something is okay to share, that’s a good moment to not share it and first ask the people involved.
Also, DO NOT TAKE PICTURES of people who haven’t explicitly agreed to it. 📸

Our EMOTIONAL SUPPORT TEAM will be available for you at the event at specific times (which you can see in our timetable in the PROGRAM site) - you can come to them if you feel unstable, emotionally challenged, lost, confused, sad, upset, in need of company…
We also have the Soul Care Room 24/7 available for emotional regulation, difficult talks, crying, screaming, being held, …

If you experience DISCRIMINATORY BEHAVIOUR OR SITUATIONS in aspects like (unintended) racism, queer-/transphobia, matters around disabilities, migration, gender, classism/wealth, abuse of all kinds - if you face any challenges related to unjust societal structures (or not), please don't stay alone with is. Our team is there to support you. We are not specifically trained around discrimination (e.g. anti-racist conflict management), but self-educated (to different degrees), aware of the existence of marginalizing dynamics, we will believe you and are willing to learn & support.

LOW HIERARCHIES

We (the organizers) automatically have structural power because we decide how things are done, choose the content, facilitate the framework... Additionally, we have a kind of less obvious power, because people tend to idealize/look up to team members, teachers, facilitators…

We try to keep this emotional hierarchy low, by not presenting ourselves as "wise amazing know-it-all enlightened gurus" - we’re not trying to be an example of what you can become if you try hard enough, we are normal people with flaws, personal difficulties, needs and boundaries, trying to figure out life like everyone else.

At the same time, we do give ourselves the right to interfere according to our values if necessary, or even send someone away.

TEAM = PARTICIPANTS:

At our events, team members are allowed to interact with participants in any way they want if they’re outside their facilitating role.

This is somewhat risky - many people expect facilitators to be skilled/advanced about intimacy, assuming they know the "right way to do things" which can make consent more difficult.

So we strongly suggest for a more intimate or/and sexual encounter between a participant and a team member, to get to know each other more first, have a longer chat, spend some time, and by that reduce projections/ideas you have pre-created - which is generally a good idea, by the way. 🙃

We are open to feedback & discussions around this.

BOUNDARY VIOLATIONS
& ASSAULT

In these spaces, many people try out new things, find themselves in unusual situations – some people do more in sexpositive spaces than they normally would.
Also, our content can create a natural drug-like state of being that can let us be more light-headed and make consent more difficult.
So yes, boundary violations can happen in these spaces,
and are absolutely not okay,
just like anywhere else!

At least, here we have a supportive space. We want to talk about these issues, learn to be more aware of ourselves, learn to create consent, to read body language…
We don't stick to the illusion that boundary violations will stop happening - but we do try to support them to happen much less, and less harmful, and learn how we can deal with them better when they happen.

If we (the team) hear or see that somebody’s boundaries are being crossed, we do offer support to the people involved. We prioritize the needs of the harmed ones, and if possible we also get in touch with who was harming them, aiming for clarification, awareness of responsability and soothing - if the harm was unintentional.

Depending on the situation, we may decide to remove them from the place and see about further consequences.

We have no tolerance for intentional assault.

ADVENTURE & FAILURE

Let’s try out new things.

Let’s risk things going wrong.

Let’s have some tolerance for failing.

Let’s not let the idea of failing stop us from trying something.

And for that, a pro tip from experience - REST RECOMMENDATION: To digest your adventures and possible failures, we recommend you take breaks, walks, naps, time to integrate, and also free time for yourself after the event. We advise you to take a free Monday afterwards if you can, or even 2-3 days.

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LOVING TRUTHFULNESS

We want everyone to be as true as possible about what they want, don’t want, feel, believe, think…

We support honest & direct communication while trying to keep it loving, caring and as un-hurtful as possible.

We invite a YES TO WHAT IS THERE (emotionally) instead of trying to break through it - if you’re not in a sexy flirty mode, we’d love you to be gentle on yourself and take a rest or cuddle or sleep, instead of forcing yourself to have fun.

We prefer you to stop things instead of adapting and pleasing others.

We encourage you to cry if you’re sad, or to find a place to express anger if you’re angry.

(This is also a basic principle of Gestalt therapy, which some of our content is based on.)

Let’s meet here & now, with what is there.